Unfortunately, funerals will be a part of our lives forever. It saddens me to think of how many loved ones I am going to have to witness passing away. Recently one of my good friends lost her daddy and tonight is the wake. I thought it would be a good idea to discuss correct funeral etiquette so when the inevitable happens to you you will be prepared.
1. Sending a sympathy card is a nice gesture and will mean a lot to the recipient. A sympathy card should be sent immediately upon hearing of the death.
2. If you cannot make it to the wake or funeral a phone call, in addition to a sympathy card, is a nice gesture. Especially if you are close to the person or the person’s family. If you are simply an acquaintance a sympathy card is sufficient.
3. When attending a wake or funeral it is appropriate to wear something respectful. Never wear bright colors or prints that scream “look at me.” You should also never wear anything too revealing.
4. I know that it is hard to know what to say to someone who has lost a loved one and sometimes just a smile and a hug says it all. Don’t feel like you have to say “I’m sorry” especially if you feel uncomfortable saying it. They will hear it over and over, anyway. You being there will be enough.
5. If the person who passed is an immediate family member to your friend or family member it is a nice gesture to cook or purchase a meal for them. Something that can be frozen and thawed would be best as I know the person will probably not feel like preparing a meal.
It’s the little things that count when someone passes away. Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes to see how you would want to be treated.
Erin Sharplin Love